Our brains are naturally wired to notice the negative. Great when we were not top of the food chain, but not so great in our modern world. We can counteract this natural tendency with mindful attention to the positive.
When we have a traumatic experience, our brain may be unable to accurately process and store what happened. This can leave us with beliefs which are inaccurate and unhelpful, but which continue to affect the decisions we make today. The good news is that these inaccurate beliefs, these old messages, can be updated with new, more adaptive learning and beliefs.
When you break your leg, if everything is working as it should generally the bone heals. If, however, you break your leg badly and do not have it reset, it will not heal properly and you may lose some function. You may live with a limp for the rest of your life. We seem to understand this with regard to physical health and rarely hesitate to seek help when our physical bodies don’t seem to be healing as they should. Unfortunately, we often give our mental health the short end of the stick, not realizing our minds sometimes also need help to heal.
Wondering where that negative message in your head comes from? Old learning and the old messages stay in our day-to-day playbook until we work to learn something different and more helpful. They stick around until we update our learning.